Subscribe: Google Podcasts | Spotify Nice Guys Aren’t So Nice Podcast: Play in new window | Download | Embed We dive deep into unique Asian American obstacles, like racism, parental pressure, bamboo ceilings in your career, holding back too much, and more. Listen to my exclusive interview with Dr. They wonder it will be “their turn.” They have a poor or zero romantic or sex lives.They want to be appreciated but they feel like they can never do enough.They give so much and are mad they don’t get enough back.Nice Guys have common frustrations in life: And if you do everything right, life will still hand you tough blows a successful person has to plan ahead and roll with the punches. People don’t expect or realize they have to meet your needs if you meet yours, especially if you don’t ask. You will still meet people who dislike you no matter how nice you are.

These three are also considered limiting beliefs since they aren’t true but Nice Guys believe they’re true, which limit their potential.

If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.

If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.

If I am a good guy, then everyone will love me and like me (and people I desire will desire me).

The three universal covert contracts are: He also manages his anxiety and his need to please others in passive-aggressive ways.Ī Nice Guy has “covert contracts” or assumptions about what he’ll get back if he does something for someone else. He feels like he has to hide his true intentions to get what he wants, resulting in dysfunctional relationships.

Nice Guys Lack Push-Pull (Positive Emotional Tension)Ī Nice Guy is a man who doesn’t think he’s can be his true self.

How I Applied the Exercises and Lessons.

What To Look For To Find The Right Wife.

Be Honest With Your Sexuality (Hiding Sexual Shame & “Hitting on Her Without Seeming Like I’m Hitting on Her”).

Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last: They Rot in Middle Management.

I want to cover some of the major lessons in the book, and offer an exclusive interview with the man himself.

He adeptly addresses specific common questions like, “Why is it a bad thing to be nice?” and “How do I talk to a girl without making it seem like I’m hitting on her?” Glover has coached thousands of Nice Guys as a licensed psychotherapist. The book is filled with stories of many of his Nice Guy clients and specific steps on how to break free from this behavior.

how to take back your life in an honest, non-manipulative way without becoming a jerk.why they fail to get the relationships and career success they crave.why modern society has created so many of them.the truth about the stereotypical Nice Guy.One of the books that has been most impactful on my life is Dr. Relationships by their very nature are chaotic, eventful, and challenging.”

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